Technically, it’s my 31st year, but yo tengo 30 años…
So here I am, newly single…as in soon to be divorced (gulp). Two weeks before the birthday mentioned above, my then husband moved out. I saw this coming, but I did not see this coming. It’s really difficult, changing my future story that has been so neatly tucked into my brain for the past 7 years. There have been many painful moments in the past two months, many tears, many metaphorical head banging sessions. Out of respect for all involved, I will not go into details. I am here to focus on the next step.
I am choosing to see this new chapter as an opportunity. A chance to not only be single again, but more importantly freedom to become more of the person I truly want to be. To explore, love, and learn in the ways that I desire. To be intentional about setting and achieving goals. To dream bigger dreams again. To explore what the future might actually look like for me.
As with many major life events (marriage, graduation, a child, etc), my impending divorce is serving as a literal junction between the comfort of my past life and the unknown, much less comfortable, beyond. I am proud in so many ways of where I stand now in life, with or without a significant other. I work in a profession that gives me a great deal of personal satisfaction, flexible hours, and a nice paycheck. I have made wonderful friends in Sacramento.
My big conundrum now is where to live? I could stay in Sac. It’s really not such a bad place and I could be really happy here. I feel comfortable in my work and social life. I am a 1.5 hour drive to first rate mountains and only a bit farther from the ocean. But I didn’t choose this place. My ex is from here and my foundation has crumbled. I don’t want to settle for comfort. I place so much value on intentions. I want to have an active hand in creating the life I want, where I want it. I realize not everyone is given this opportunity, but now I have it and I won’t squander the chance to explore before I settle.
So, the details of this year?
Here are some preliminary goals and plans…
- Create a list of potential cities/towns to move to and visit them.
- Blog about this list of cities and their potential for livability.
- Find locums work as a PA (physician assistant) – ideally in cities being considered -and save money to invest in a downpayment on a home in my chosen locale.
- Travel the world in between job assignments. Blog about this, too.
- Write weekly.
- Meet and engage with people everywhere I go.
Wish me luck!